Let’s be honest. We’ve got a lot of responsibilities and a lot of pressures as adults.
Jobs. Bills. Budgets. Family. Friends. Healthy Eating. Exercising. Doctor’s Appointments. Deadlines. Events. Evening Activities. Cooking. Cleaning.
Are you exhausted or overwhelmed yet?
Then we read articles or see news features on these men or women (especially women) who seemingly have it all together or “balance” it all. I would find myself trying these strategies at home and work and then feeling bad because I wasn’t “balancing” the way that society told me to do it. How crazy is this?
Why do we continually compare ourselves to unrealistic expectations? Or expectations that don’t fit our lifestyle? I was sitting in a meeting where the head of the department had us do an exercise about balance. We had to pick between two options (early bird or night owl, 40 hours a week or 8:00-4:30, projects or tasks, etc.). Once she gave us the two options, we had to go to one side of the room or the other for which option fit us best. As the group picked each answer, it started to become very apparent that all of us were SO different in what worked best for us. Of course, that was her point. 🙂
I remember her saying, “Balance is different for everyone. You have to look at yourself and decide what balance looks like for you. Never compare yourself to others. As long as you work hard and do your job, we will support whatever balance works best for you.”
What an incredibly freeing feeling. I had never thought about it that way. She told us to ask ourselves one question anytime we felt overwhelmed with our personal and professional lives, “Where is the most important place I should be?” If it’s being with a sick kid who needs his mommy, be there. If it’s staying up a little late after putting the kids to bed to finish an important project, do it. If it’s having a much needed date night with my husband and getting a sitter for the kids, schedule it.
Is it “balanced” this way? Ha! Never. I don’t even use the word balance anymore. It’s life! Period. Explanation Point. End of story. Be where you are needed most.
And frankly…I wouldn’t have it any other way.